A lot of you are probably excited for Take Your Daughters and Sons to Work Day. This year, it comes up on April 27th! In 1992, the Ms. Foundation for Women created this holiday to promote self-esteem and go-get-em attitudes for little girls everywhere. For years now, it’s been changed from Bring Your Daughters to Work Day to Bring Your Daughters and Sons to Work Day, opening doors for young boys to explore career goals as well.
I imagine this can be a huge day for some parents who wait all year to show their child what they actually do all day. These parents make the rounds around the office to introduce coworkers to their beautiful kids and having that thought that maybe, just maybe, their child will aspire to do what you do. Being a stay at home mom, I intend to do all of this and experience this all from home.
Dreams Were Realized
I spent a lot of time as a young women going back and forth when it came to my career. I waitressed here, went to school briefly there, had an on-again-off-again boyfriend, but in a nutshell wasn’t happy. In fact, I didn’t know what I wanted to do for a career, let alone, how I was going to pay rent. I was no role model.
But then the full-time job (with no paid sick days) of mothering a child literally fell into my lap. My doubts dissolved as I now had a job with great benefits. And I was my own boss. In our home, there was a mutual understanding from the very beginning that I would be a stay-at-home mom. Why pay for something that we couldn’t afford (daycare), when I have two loving hands to take care of this stunning baby with? This child literally changed my life. Never in a million years did I think I would be taking pride in a clean house, happy husband, and thriving baby at the age of 24. But my god, I did. I had finally found my place in life. I had found what has made me the happiest woman I could possibly be.
On Take your Daughters and Sons to Work Day, I’ll be staying home teaching my son and daughter what being a SAHM is all about, because this is my job.
The options: staying home or working
I would love to think one day my daughter Tinley will grow up to be a photographer, a vision therapist, a veterinarian, or even a roofer (whatever makes her happy). If Tinley goes to college and has a grueling schedule, guess who will be bringing her dinners and offering unwanted advice? Me, her doting mom, backing her a thousand percent, because that’s what good moms do. But I also want her to know that if she sees her future in wiping noses, changing diapers, and raising good humans, that’s ok too. Not only is it ok, but in my opinion, it’s one of the most important jobs around. Moms are the glue to families, and that is something to be proud of.
She’s only three, so she can only do so much to help me out during the day. But when she does, it’s a beautiful thing. So on this holiday, we will be doing what we do every day.
She will be bringing the laundry to the couch from the dryer for me. She will be making her bed as well as cleaning up her toys. Not only am I everyone’s maid (don’t get me wrong, I’m happy to do it), but I am also a teacher. We practice shapes and words outside with chalk every day as well as on the fridge with the magnetic alphabet. It is solely my job to prepare her for school. And don’t I want her to be the smartest cookie she can be? Tinley even helps me try to teach my son to walk. She says things like, “Good job, Caleb! You can do it!” From the start, I’ve also tried to teach her healthy foods and not so healthy foods. But that’s still a work in progress.
After looking into a mother’s worth, I found on Salary.com that a SAHM is worth $143,00 a year. Now before you laugh, aren’t we worth every cent? Of course, the estimated 52 hours in overtime equaling, $94,593 didn’t hurt the quoted yearly salary. I think a lot of us SAHM’s go above and beyond the call of duty because we want to prove our worth. And sometimes we feel like we wish we could be bringing in money to help. But if that’s you, don’t sweat it. You are right where you are supposed to be.
At the end of the day
At the end of the day, I want my children do do whatever makes them happy. But would I have a little pep in my step and permanent smile on my face knowing I inspired my daughter to be a great SAHM? Sure, who wouldn’t want their children to be like them? I look at my friends who work and then come home and be moms and just feel pride. These women are MY friends and they are educated go-getters. As their kids get older and they can actually take the kids to work with them, I will be living to hear at the end of the day how it goes.