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Pregnancy Brain. It never left me

Pregnancy BrainMy youngest is 6 years old and I still have pregnancy brain; it never left me. I was sharp as a tack before kids. I even took the post office exam, just for fun, and did very well. Then I got pregnant and pregnancy brain kicked in. I know many of you can relate to the moment you walk into a room and forget why you’re there. My favorite however, was when I went grocery shopping, and no, I didn’t forget an item off the list.  At the time I lived in Iowa and  the local grocery store had ‘Drive Up’ service.  I was 9 months pregnant and it was below zero so I decided to take advantage of it. The process was supposed to be simple:

1.You walk in and shop.
2.Check out, pay for the groceries.
3.Leave groceries in cart with the clerk; they give you a number
4.Go get in your car.
5.Pull up to the drive thru, and a 15 year old clerk loads the car up for you while you are snugly warm in your car.

When I got home to my husband, who stayed back with our 13 month old, he graciously got up to help me unload the groceries.  I gave him a blank look as it dawned on me: I never did step 5.  There were no groceries to unload.

The pregnancy brain never left me… 6 years later I’m still so forgetful and spacey, that I’ve run out of gas several times. Thankfully, my husband takes my car and fills it up once a week now. But forgetting things is still annoying.. Sadly, I’ve had people accuse me of being irresponsible or self-absorbed when I forget to return phone calls or wish them a happy birthday.  It’s painful.  What they don’t realize, is I am doing the best I can. I want to remember. I want them to feel loved. And my children are the last ones I want to put in danger. All I can think of is what if? What if I become the mom who forgets their child in the car?

Studies show that it’s not pregnancy brain. Your brain does not change.  It’s the hormonal changes, sleep deprivation, distractions, stress/worry, and it’s 100% normal to be forgetful when we have one or all of the above. And guess what? All of the above sticks around after having kids.  

On top of all of this, Mom + Kids= multitasking which adds another whole level of complications. Because studies have shown multitasking actually takes away from memory and you tend to forget more easily.  No wonder my memory is not the greatest, even after “pregnancy brain”.  

I am here to tell you, if you’re going to forget my birthday, I get it!!! (unless you are my husband) If you’re  going to forget to text me back. I get it!!! And if you are the mom who forgot their child, I put no shame on you.  I get it!!! It could have been me.

Here are some general tips to help memory.  This is my 2016 resolution. {Improve memory}

Tips to improve memory:

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Taking it easy hanging with family.

  1. Be cautious of routine change. I forgot my groceries, why? Because I never do drive up. That was out of routine.

  2. Write things down. …Now the trick is  remembering where I put the list…

  3. Play Brain games. “Use it or loose it” lumosity.com is good place to start.

  4. Keep things simple. Yes mom, this means try not to multitask and taking it easy.

  5. Exercise!!!! There is a huge correlation between mental health & physical health.

  6. Do your best  to get sleep. I know this is difficult, so if you’re dealing with  sleepless nights, the best thing to do is to stay home, or ask for help.

  7. Eat foods that contain antioxidants like broccoli, blueberries or spinach and foods with Omega-3 fatty acid like salmon and almonds.

***If your memory problems are getting in the way of your or your children’s  safety, like forgetting your child in the car. Please seek help.  These problems are real and do happen, and there are people who care and can  help you.***

Scary Mommy has an article What Kind Of Parent Leaves Their Child Inside A Car?  and she ends it with the long, scary, article Fatal Distraction: Forgetting a Child in the Backseat of a Car Is a Horrifying Mistake. Is It a Crime?  Two great reads in understanding how and why this happens.

On a lighter note:  It’s my Brothers Birthday today.  I hope I can remember to call him!!! Maybe he is reading this…Happy Birthday Brother Chris.

Do you have pregnancy brain, or have ever experienced pregnancy brain?  If so we would love to hear your stories.

 

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5 Responses to Pregnancy Brain. It never left me

  1. Tacheny
    Tacheny January 19, 2016 at 8:43 am #

    One of my funniest ‘pregnancy brain’ moments happened when I was pregnant with my first. I attempted to make some cookies (a recipe I’d had memorized since 8th grade) and kept messing up the proportions. By the time my husband got home from work I was in tears and so confused we had to quadruple the batch. Needless to say, we were eating cookies for a while…

  2. Rochelle
    Rochelle January 19, 2016 at 1:00 pm #

    Tacheny!!!! That makes me Laugh. I am sure you can laugh about ti now. 😉 You will have to make another batch and share with me!! Thank you for Sharing!!

  3. Rebecca
    Rebecca January 19, 2016 at 3:48 pm #

    Great tips, Rochelle! Speaking of “pregnancy brain” sticking around, I went target with all 3 kids this morning, paid for my items (or so I thought) made it to the car and unloaded to find a bag of chocolate chips that hadn’t been paid for. I was SO tempted to just throw it in the car with everything else, but I went back in and paid for them. I went back out to the car, unloaded the kids, but this time forgot to take the chocolate chips out of the cart! And now we have no chocolate chips… 🙁

  4. Rochelle
    Rochelle January 19, 2016 at 4:09 pm #

    Rebecca, I have had that happen to me many times. Not fun. And yes temptation creeps in and its not because you want to get something free, but because its a lot of work to go back in.

  5. Maureen January 20, 2016 at 2:39 am #

    I’m 50 have 2 children and 2 Granddaughter’s and I still have pregnancy brain, or menopause, not sure which. I couldn’t find my glasses while babysitting my Granddaughter. Lyllian looks up and says “Nanny they are on your head, silly Nanny”. See pregnancy brain has not left….