Don’t Be a Mean Girl

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I have to confess something to you all. I’m a mean girl. It’s true. I say mean things all day every day. I am constantly putting down, discouraging, and shaming. And I can’t seem to stop. Don’t worry, though. You will likely never see my mean girl side. You see, I reserve all of my meanness for myself.

mean girlFor me, the light bulb went off on one of those days where you feel like you are failing at life. I started to question why exactly I felt like a failure. It’s not like the people around me were mean and nasty with their words. And then it hit me like the sound of all the tiny Legos being dumped onto the floor; I felt like a failure because I told myself I was one. 

Every time I mess up even the tiniest bit, that mean girl in me shows up and I believe her lies.

You’re not smart enough, she says.

You completely messed that up, she says.

You are failing your kids, she says.

That mom is so much better than you, she says.

Wow. What a mean, mean girl.

Are you a mean girl, too? I hope I’m alone in this, but I have a feeling that I’m not. We would never talk to people the way we talk to ourselves, right? So it’s time to stop. Time to say “Bye, Felicia” and move on! (Do people still say that?)

Ladies, it’s time to take back our minds! How can we teach our children to treat others with kindness and respect and yet be treating ourselves so poorly? The thing is, the more I hear it, the more I believe it, and the less I am able to move forward. Insecurity can be paralyzing and our kids need us to move. They need us to be kind. To show respect. To take chances and be brave. It’s time to take our thoughts captive and weed out the lies from the truth. 

Be kind to yourself. Don’t be a mean girl.

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